Hi! My name is Lenore Ntozake Schaffer. My family and friends call me Nto or Lenny or Dr. Bae (well, only hubby calls me that honestly). I’m a wife, a new mom, and a higher education administrator. I’m originally from Antigua and Barbuda, but I currently live in the United States in South Mississippi with my husband, Micah and daughter, Amara.
My website is entitled “Becoming Lenore” because it describes my current season in life perfectly. I’m almost 30 years old and most people see 30 as “the age”. Most of us hope that by age 30 all of our dreams and goals would be achieved. To some it might look like I’ve achieved it all and I live this perfect life. “You’ve arrived girl,” they say. I have the husband, the new baby girl, my degrees, a good job etc. However, that’s so far from my truth! In fact, the closer I get to 30 the more I realize:
1. The things of this world do not satisfy my soul.
2. The minute I think I have it all figured out, life throws me a curveball—sometimes a huge one!
3. 30 isn’t the age of my arrival. For me, it’s the age of becoming. Realizing that I don’t have it all figured out and I STILL have so much to learn. Most importantly, that it’s okay NOT to have it all figured out.
I’m still figuring things out as a wife, in my career, financially, and especially as a mom. In a world where it seems like everyone in your age bracket is already debt free, have multiple businesses, the perfect little family, and a well-organized and filtered Instagram feed, it’s easy to get discouraged. I know I do at times! Yet I refuse to live my last year in my 20’s discouraged and upset with myself for not achieving something that I thought I would have by now. Now the focus is on becoming who I am and embracing the journey—the highs and the lows.
I am becoming Lenore…
Who are you becoming?