I celebrated m 29th birthday on August 26th! I meant to post this before my birthday, but I am quickly realizing how hectic life really is. I had no free time to post. None whatsoever. I’m struggling to respond to text messages too (don’t even mention phone calls ugh).
Amara keeps me busy. Work keeps me busy. Then, when I find that I’m not AS busy, I’d rather take a nap (keepin’ it real). Also, if I’m not taking a nap, I’m spending as much time as possible with my family because hubby works crazy hours (so whenever we’re both home, I want to squeeze in as much time together as I can)! I also spend a lot of my free time playing with Amara and talking to her.
I really wanted to share my birthday thoughts with you all. I’ve been thinking about a lot lately! I also know so many women struggling with a specific area in their life. My prayer is that my words will encourage you to keep going, no matter what!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
On the weekend of my 29th birthday I spent the weekend in reflection mode. I reflected on my 20s: the things I learned, the mistakes I made, the tears, the laughs, and everything in between. So I wasn’t surprised when my past relationships came to mind. If only I knew at age 21 what I now know at 29. Ladies, there is absolutely nothing wrong with setting boundaries and being single. I’ll repeat. There is absolutely nothing wrong with setting boundaries. Don’t be afraid to walk away from something or someone who is not God’s best for your life. You are valuable because God says so. And I don’t know about you, but time is precious. You can’t get that back once it’s wasted. I wasted so much time in dead end relationships. When Micah and I started dating, he knew from early on that I was NOT about to waste my time again. I set the tone really early. It was my first time doing so. I knew what I wanted and for the first time in my life, I truly loved myself. I also learned what God’s word said about love. I was no longer going to tolerate “unkind” love because I knew that was NOT love—no matter how often a person used the words, “I love you”. So check a person’s fruit (i.e. actions).
As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you…
Nothing has stretched me and caused me to lean on the love of The Father like being a mom. It has challenged me and changed me. Yet, I am more me than I have ever been. It just feels natural. I was meant to be a mom, and knowing that comforts me. Most importantly, I was called to be Amara’s mom. God chose me to be her mom for a reason. My baby is unique. I should not compare her to other babies. I know at times it’s easier said than done, especially when I get a baby milestone alert on my phone or people ask the “Has your baby done x,y,z yet?” . I’m learning to relax and trust the process. My baby will roll over on her own. She’ll also crawl, then walk. God is teaching me what it means to truly trust him. I’ve always been a control freak, and I’m learning very quickly that there is so much I cannot control when it comes to parenting and Amara’s development or growth.
You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.
That scripture says it all. God’s purpose is more powerful than any of my little ole plans. Don’t get me wrong, planning is good. I believe in planning. I believe we’re supposed to be good stewards and be faithful with what God has given us (which includes making plans), but ultimately, his will is going to be accomplished! I choose to be comforted by that. You’re not a failure because you haven’t climbed up the corporate ladder. You’re not a failure because you don’t own a business. You’re not a failure because you don’t have that degree or that experience. Let your goals and dreams motivate you, rather than deter you. You should feel good about working toward that goal, rather than discouraged because you haven’t accomplished yet! Keep pushing. Continue to work for it. Most importantly, ask the Lord for wisdom and pray, “Lord let your will be done in my life (here on earth) as it is in heaven. God is so generous. He won’t give his wisdom grudgingly. Lately, Micah and I have been praying for the wisdom and skills we need to accomplish what we are believing for, rather than the thing itself. People appreciate what they work hard for!
Then because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”
Rest. Whew. I’m preaching to myself here. For my 29th birthday, I want the Lord to show me how to go away to a quiet place and get some rest. I’m constantly going. If I’m not physically doing something, my mind has a million tabs open. I’m always looking for the next thing to do. But, even Jesus rested. He encouraged his disciples to rest too. We are no different. My girls (Real Housewives of Hattiesburg LOL) paid for a massage for my birthday. It will be my first professional massage and I’m so excited. I plan to go on my first day off! I promised myself that I won’t do laundry, clean, or even blog on my day off. I’m going to get a massage, browse a bookstore, and take a nap! A day of rest. I encourage you to have a self-care day each month too. Maybe you can’t afford a luxury vacation or even a professional massage, but there is something you can do for self-care. It’s an absolute necessity!